My little contribution in the series of articles on breed whipping it's just a sample of the huge resources offered by the internet for parents who want to educate their children without punishment, whipping or shouting.
It is precisely the lack of resources that can make us consider the use of scourges to be unavoidable or get carried away by anger, we do not have valid references or models, nor an extensive training in psychology that gives us the tools of communication and practice.
Fortunately internet is a huge field of information and experiences and available, where we can immerse ourselves to find ideas and strategies that help us breed if you whip. For this reason I propose to offer you a list of places to find specialists and families who have already undertaken this path.
Project No Spank
I will start with an American website called Project No Spank, an association that unites parents and educators in the defense of children's rights, claiming greater protection for them. On its website, which has a part published in Spanish, news and documents of great interest are collected.
Non-punitive paternity
I also recommend the Norm Lee page, Parenting without punishement, where he presents a new paradigm of non-punitive paternity, which develops extensively and demands that children be treated with the same respect and kindness as the rest of the people we know, friends , colleagues and relatives. He points out that the victimization of children makes them unaware of the damage caused by violence in others.
His work, "Being parents without punishment" can be read for free on the network translated into Spanish.
Alice Miller
The next page that I recommend is that of the renowned psychotherapist Alice Miller, specializing in all types of abuse, but also publishing very valid documents for parents who want to learn more about the mechanisms that trigger non-peaceful behaviors in them.
Alice Miller, in one of her most important works, "For your own good" sets out the reasons behind that phrase that justifies the punishment received and the punishment that is exercised on the children themselves, explaining that the one who is humiliated and Threatened you will learn that these behaviors are appropriate and you can forget the pain you suffered and repeat the same actions with your own children.
No punishment
Educating without punishing is a Spanish project offers great continuously updated articles that address a multitude of situations, from the practical resolution of conflicts with dialogue to reflections to understand that blind obedience is not a virtue. It also offers classroom courses, a virtual classroom and personal advice.
Educating without punishing also has its group on Facebook, where we can be updated and share doubts with the participants.
Facebook Groups
Facebook hosts several very active groups where professionals and parents share articles and experiences, allowing interested people to actively participate in discussions and gather new data every day. I recommend several of them, Pegar is not educating, the one dedicated to disseminating the work of the Spanish psychologist Rosa Jové and Respect to educate.
Respect for Educar was born as a meeting place on Facebook to accommodate fathers and mothers who, like us, want to educate their children based on mutual respect. We understand by mutual respect a way of acting and behaving on a day-to-day basis with our children that takes into account, both the needs of the little ones and those of the adults with whom they live. We believe that this society disparages children's feelings and downplays the millions of nuances that make up the experiences of our sons and daughters.
Respect to educate in addition, recently it has opened an excellent page that I am sure will serve parents who wish to learn more about parenting without scourges or punishments, because already in their Facebook group they proposed weekly challenges and tools to use and shared what they had perceived when applied.
With this I finish my first review of network resources to whip-free breeding, in which to find information, articles, workshops and families who wish to educate with a non-punitive paradigm.
