If they already say it, that today there are studies for everything, and that after one that tells you A, another comes that tells you B. We have been years, if not five years, but decades, fighting for the protocols to change and for parents may accompany the woman at all times, during childbirth, in order to give her moral, emotional support and to act as a "barrier" to possible interference (I explain below).
And now a study appears that concludes that the best thing for mothers' pain is precisely the opposite, that some parents are not present during childbirth because that way women may feel more pain.
Just a moment, let's see what the study is about
Calm down, let's not open the lion's cage and now let's not tell all the men that they should stay in the waiting room, when since the 70s they have published several studies that show that it is better for the woman to be accompanied. Let's see, let women talk: if you're going to give birth to a hospital, Do you prefer to be alone or accompanied? Because I think most would say they prefer to be accompanied.
Now, what if the relationship with the couple is not as good as it should be? And if there is not enough confidence? What if the father has the ability to make the mother more nervous? Then what they say in the study happens, that there are some parents that cause the woman to feel more pain. I talked about it a few years ago, when I said that it is positive that the woman is accompanied, but that it is not necessary for the father to accompany her.
The company is non-negotiable
A woman must be accompanied to give birth, provided she does it in a hospital. Accompanied because she is in a place where she is attended by professionals who probably do not know her and because she needs someone to give her support at all times, if she requires it. What if you need something? And if something fails? It is better that there is someone who can advise, give massages, give that support or simply be silent, as the mother prefers, not to be alone. Also, what if someone comes in to ask you things?
A woman who is dilating, who has contractions, who is trying to give birth, must get carried away by your body and your feelings, and to do so requires privacy and a certain disconnection from the world around him. It is not the time to listen, think and respond, but to give in to the desires of nature. Childbirth is a sexual act, and every sexual act can fail if the person does not get carried away. Do you start talking to someone when you make love? Well, the thing goes a bit out there.
What does the study say?
Let's see, the study is pretty weird, everything has to be said. To find out how different the pain was in women, they took a sample of 39 women with their partners and "attacked" them with a laser on the fingertips when the couple was present and when it was not. They analyzed the neuronal response of each woman and also asked them to describe the level of pain intensity.
They saw that the pain was very similar whether it was the couple as if it was not and that, on some occasions, el pain was even higher if the couple was next (normally in those couples who have a less affectionate and less close relationship).
According to the researchers, and it may seem logical, we may know that the new model of care in which the father is always accompanying the mother may not be suitable for everyone. In fact, it is said that there are women who would prefer that the father not be there, but some familiar woman. Well, in such cases, as I said at the time, it is worth being honest and explaining it as the woman feels it, I say, although I imagine that more than one father something like that, not seeing her children born, would break the heart, in addition to the level of emotional bond between the father and the son, the fact of seeing him born is sure to be very positive.
It may be worth knowing the mother's wishes in time for try to bring positions, file rough edges and make the father, definitely, the person who wants to accompany him (If that change can happen, I don't know). In fact, she will be the one who accompanies her in raising the baby, so it is not bad to start going at one before the baby is born.
What if you gave birth in another environment?
My wife has told me more than once, if I gave birth alone I would surely do better than accompanied. He doesn't concentrate with me, he doesn't let go, and my presence alone bothers him in that way. But of course, In a hospital, he feels he needs me.
What if I gave birth in another environment? Well, another rooster would sing. If I gave birth at home, or elsewhere, knowing that the risk is minimal (if we went to the hospital it is because we never had the absolute confidence to do so at home), I would surely have chosen to give birth alone: "I'm going while, I have the baby and then I come back. " But of course, births are sometimes complicated, it is necessary that there is someone nearby just in case and then, if you go to a hospital environment, loneliness can be worse than being accompanied.
Are the study data extrapolated?
On the other hand, giving you a laser on your fingers may be something you prefer to be alone, but that you are going to give birth to your baby, because not the same. The result is not the same because the pain of the fingers does not involve any positive experience and a delivery results in your precious baby, and consequently I don't know how much one thing can be extrapolated with the other. As I say, my wife would rather give birth alone, but in the hospital she would not let me or go find something to eat.
